My oxygen demand valve came with a 6-foot-long hose. One end of the hose has a DISS connection sized for oxygen and connects to the regulator; the other end of the hose connects to the demand valve. The Oxygen flow is: Tank, regulator, hose, demand valve, mask, patient. Maybe another way to explain it is that the regulator needs to have the proper connections for both the tank and the hose; e.g., the regulator needs to have the DISS connection.
DISS connections are sized for the gas that is flowing to avoid connecting to wrong gas source. Also, the DISS fitting for the demand valve should not be limited by the regulator setting.
Scroll through this forum tread and I think that there are photos of a setup that might work for you. https://clusterbusters.org/forums/topic/6632-demand-valve-o2/?tab=comments#comment-65652
I use E-tanks with a CGA870 connection to the tank. Here is the regulator I use if that will help. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00ZVPR7NM/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1
Hope that helps and if not, keep asking......