I agree with @jon019. In the past when I was young, stress was a full time part of my life and the headaches seemed to be occasional and manageable. Once I worked my way into a quieter less stressful situation the headaches seemed to escalate. Psychological stress seems to make the demon less effective while physiologic stress raises all sorts of hell. (My experience)
You will never ever be able to relate the pain and related issues to anyone in a understandable way. There is just no way to do it. Watching a video like the National Geographic piece featuring Dan shows the horror of an attack but most people don’t believe it. Dan is a wonderful human but no one is that good of an actor., It’s on YouTube search National Geographic and psilocybin.
Because no one can really understand the unfair hand you have been dealt going to a meeting like Clusterbusters holds is an amazing experience. You are in a room of folks with whom you don’t have to explain a damn thing. Everyone understands so you can discuss coping, treatments and support without having to do any foundational talking. The meeting is in Chicago this year. Come if you can its much more effective than any therapy session.