The 1 in 10 has changed to 3 in 10 and is now at 4 in 10 I believe. I find it unfortunate and infuriating that doctors don't keep up with their own field!!! But, CH patients are few, so I sort of understand it.
There are at least two studies in the US currently that are testing Magic Mushrooms for CH, so that is a huge plus!
As a woman, you will find that you almost certainly have to advocate for yourself. And almost all CHer's must advocate for themselves too.
Have you tried an ice cold energy drink at the first sign of a hit? It can really help. I can't tolerate them, but use iced coffee for the same purpose. I grab it before I hit the O2. In addition, as soon as you wake with a hit, begin deep breathing and forceful exhale on your way to the caffeine and O2.
I think it pays to have a plan of action for your hits as that can help occupy your brain with meaningful stuff to help as opposed to quickly falling into hell and thinking there is no way out. As in the more control you have or you take, the better the outcome. I have found that anger with the situation causes my hits to be worse. When I 'take control' by doing X in an orderly fashion, it keeps the pain level lower. My anger jacks it up even worse than it would have been.
Have you tried the D3 Regimen? It can be a big hammer in your arsenal! Many have gone completely pain free just taking the vitamins. Others experience a reduction in pain level and a slower ramp-up of pain. Both of those things would be a huge help for you. I am not sure what country you are in, but some require a script for D3. Others do not.
In addition, we love naps when we are in cycle, right? Try to make up some lost sleep. Well, in short order those naps become a trigger in themselves. You fall asleep and wake with a bruiser of a hit. Naps become a no-no and a strict sleep schedule often must be implemented. If you sleep in a recliner with your head kept higher than your heart, you can get some decent sleep and will wake sooner in the attack if/when it comes.