I had horrible neck pain some years ago. Every day a misery, wearing a cervical collar all day, unable to do anything comfortably. I was in the hospital for a week just because I was going nuts from the stress. The first day I was there a doc came in and said he had looked at my MRI and he was ready to do surgery whenever I wanted (fecking ambulance chaser). Nothing they gave me, even morphine or steroids, helped at all, and when they kicked me out they gave me giant bottles of things to take daily (neurontin, oxycontin, oxyIR . . . ). I flushed them down the toilet on the third day (too bad -- street value was probably pretty high).
It happened that we had a connection with a top neurosurgeon, and I counted the days until my appointment with him, thinking he surely was going to rush me into surgery and finally fix the pain. Instead, he said to come back in two months after doing physical therapy regularly. I was crushed. I wanted it over, and I was terrified of doing anything to make it worse. Turned out that waiting was the right thing to do, and I never did need that surgery (and I never miss a day of doing my neck exercises).
There are those famous studies where they would look at people's spines and try to predict who was having back pain. Turned out that except in extreme cases there was no connection between spinal condition and back pain. One person could have three herniated disks and be suffering, and another person could have something that looked just the same and be having no pain. And the other way around -- no structural issues but serious pain for some and no pain for others.
So maybe, like me, you were just having some kind of awful episode and it's going to get back to normal or normalish and just become a memory. Or, of course, maybe not, but it sounds like they're ready for you if surgery is what you need.
Love you, Denny, and sorry you're going through this now, too.